MORE ABOUT ROMAN WOMEN AND CHILDREN
Roman wives were expected to have children, but the women of the
aristocracy, accustomed to a degree of independence, showed a growing
disinclination to devote themselves to traditional motherhood. By the 1st
century CE, most elite women avoided
breast-feeding their infants themselves, and hired wet-nurses.[75] The extent to which Roman women might
expect their husbands to participate in the rearing of very young children seems
to vary and is hard to determine. Family-values traditionalists such as Cato
appear to have taken an interest: Cato liked to be present when his wife bathed
and swaddled their child.[82]
Large families were not the norm among the elite even by the Late Republic; the family
of Clodius Pulcher, who had at least three sisters and two brothers, was
considered unusual.[83] The birth rate among the aristocracy declined to such
an extent that the first Roman emperor Augustus (reigned 27 BCE–14 CE) passed a series
of laws intended to increase it, including special honors for women who bore at
least three children (the ius trium liberorum).[84] Those who were unmarried, divorced,
widowed, or barren were prohibited from inheriting property unless named in a
will.[85]
Roman women were not only valued for the number of children that they
produced, but also for their part in raising and educating children to become
good citizens. To rear children for successful lives, an exemplary Roman mother
needed to be well-educated herself.[86]
Roman women were not confined to their house as were Athenian women in
the Archaic and Classical periods. Wealthy women
traveled around the city in a litter carried by slaves.[135] Women
gathered in the streets on a daily basis to meet with friends, attend religious
rites at temples, or to visit
the baths. The wealthiest families had private baths at home, but most people went
to bath houses not only to wash but to socialize, as the larger facilities
offered a range of services and recreational activities,.
For entertainment women could attend debates at
the Forum, the public games (ludi), chariot races, and theatrical performances. By the late
Republic, they regularly attended dinner parties, though in earlier times the
women of a household dined in private together.[137] Conservatives such as Cato the Elder (234–149 BCE) considered it improper for
women to take a more active role in public life; his complaints indicated that
indeed some women did voice their opinions in the public sphere.[138]
Though the practice was discouraged, Roman
generals would sometimes take their wives with them on military campaigns. Caligula's mother Agrippina the Elder often accompanied her husband Germanicus on his campaigns in northern Germania, and
the emperor Claudius was born in Gaul for this reason. Wealthy women might tour the empire, often
participating or viewing religious ceremonies and sites around the empire.[139] Rich women traveled to the countryside
during the summer when Rome became too hot.[140]
Roman divorce was as simple as marriage. Just as marriage was only a
declaration of intent to live together, divorce was just a declaration of a
couple’s intent not to live together. All that the law required was that they
declare their wish to divorce before seven witnesses.
Because marriages could be ended so easily, divorce was common, particularly in the upper classes. When she divorced, a wife could expect to receive her dowry back in full and would then return to patria potestas – the protection of her father. If she had been independent before her wedding, she would regain her independence upon divorce.
Because marriages could be ended so easily, divorce was common, particularly in the upper classes. When she divorced, a wife could expect to receive her dowry back in full and would then return to patria potestas – the protection of her father. If she had been independent before her wedding, she would regain her independence upon divorce.
Roman women usually married in their early teenage years, while men waited until they were in their mid-twenties. As a result, the materfamilias (mother of the family) was usually much younger than her husband.
As was common in Roman society, while men had the formal power, women exerted influence behind the scenes. It was accepted that the materfamilias was in charge of managing the household. In the upper classes, she was also expected to assist her husband’s career by behaving with modesty, grace and dignity.
Baby love?
The influence of women only went so far. The paterfamilias had the right to decide whether to keep newborn babies. After birth, the midwife placed babies on the ground: only if the paterfamilias picked it up was the baby formally accepted into the family.
If the decision went the other way, the baby was exposed – deliberately abandoned outside. This usually happened to deformed babies, or when the father did not think that the family could support another child. Babies were exposed in specific places and it was assumed that an abandoned baby would be picked up and taken a slave.
Infant mortality
Even babies accepted into the household by the paterfamilias had a rocky start in life. Around 25 percent of babies in the first century AD did not survive their first year and up to half of all children would die before the age of 10.
As a result, the Roman state gave legal rewards to women who had successfully given birth. After three live babies (or four children for former slaves), women were recognized as legally independent. For most women, only at this stage could they choose to shrug off male control and take responsibility for their own lives.
